IS THAT WHAT LOVE IS SUPPOSED TO FEEL LIKE?
By Simon Kruger
Is That What Love Is Supposed to Feel Like? is a thought-provoking and deeply honest exploration of one of the most powerful experiences in human life: love.
What makes this book stand out is that it does not offer a simplistic definition of love. Instead, it invites us to look beneath the surface of what we call love and ask a much more important question:
Is what I am experiencing really love?
The book challenges many of the assumptions we carry about relationships, connection, affection and emotional attachment. It encourages the reader to examine the difference between what love is supposed to look like and what love actually feels like when we experience it in real life.
There is something profoundly human about this book. It recognises that love can be beautiful, confusing, exciting, painful, healing and transformative—all at the same time.
The author does not pretend that love is always easy. Instead, the book explores the complexity of loving and being loved, and the many emotions that can accompany genuine human connection.
What I particularly appreciated is the way the book encourages self-reflection. It does not simply tell the reader what love should be. It encourages us to examine our own experiences and beliefs.
Have we confused love with dependency?
Have we confused love with possession?
Have we mistaken attention for affection?
Have we accepted something as love simply because we desperately wanted it to be love?
These are uncomfortable questions, but they are necessary ones.
Is That What Love Is Supposed to Feel Like? gives the reader permission to ask them.
The book also reminds us that understanding love requires understanding ourselves. Our experiences, expectations, fears, insecurities and past relationships all influence the way we give and receive love.
That makes this more than simply a book about romantic relationships. It is a book about human connection and the emotional world we create around the word love.
There are moments in the book that encourage you to stop reading and start thinking. You may find yourself reflecting on relationships from your past, relationships in your present, and perhaps even the way you understand yourself.
That, to me, is one of the signs of a meaningful book.
It doesn’t simply give you answers.
It gives you better questions.
Is That What Love Is Supposed to Feel Like? is ultimately an invitation to become more conscious of love—to understand it, question it, experience it and perhaps discover that love is far more complex and profound than we have been taught to believe.
I would recommend this book to anyone who has ever fallen in love, lost love, questioned love, searched for love, or simply wondered whether what they were feeling was actually love.
It is honest, challenging and deeply relatable.
Most importantly, it leaves you with one question that may stay with you long after you have finished reading:
“Is that what love is supposed to feel like?”
— Simon Kruger
