RADIO INTERVIEW

The Book of Love

10 Questions & Answers

1. Tell us about your new book. What is The Book of Love about?

The Book of Love is really an invitation to rediscover what love actually is.

We often think of love as something we find in another person — romantic love, relationships, family, friendship. But I believe love begins much deeper than that.

The book explores love in three important movements: Love Thy God, Love Thyself, and Love Thy Neighbour.

The order is important. When we understand where love comes from, learn to receive and extend that love to ourselves, we become much more capable of loving other people in a healthy and meaningful way.

This isn’t simply a book about romantic relationships. It’s a book about the foundation of how we live.

2. Why did you feel the world needed another book about love?

Because we talk about love constantly, but I don’t think we always understand it.

We confuse love with attachment. We confuse love with possession. We confuse love with sacrifice. We sometimes even confuse love with needing somebody to make us feel complete.

And yet love is supposed to bring us into greater wholeness.

I wanted to explore a much bigger question: What would happen if we stopped looking at love merely as something somebody gives us, and started understanding love as a way of being?

That’s where the real journey begins.

3. You talk about “Love Thy God, Love Thyself, Love Thy Neighbour.” Why that sequence?

Because I believe the sequence gives us a foundation.

Love Thy God speaks to our relationship with the source of love — for me, that is God.

Then comes Love Thyself. Not selfishness, not narcissism, but learning to recognize our own worth, forgive ourselves, accept ourselves and treat ourselves with compassion.

And then Love Thy Neighbour becomes the natural expression of what has already happened inside us.

If I don’t know how to receive love, I will often look to other people to fill that emptiness. If I don’t know how to love myself, I may expect another person to constantly prove that I am worthy.

But when love becomes established within us, we can give without constantly demanding something in return.

4. Is this book mainly for people who are struggling in romantic relationships?

No — although I think people in relationships will find a great deal in it.

The book is really for anyone who wants to understand love more deeply.

It is for the person who is single, married, divorced, dating, healing from a relationship, struggling with family relationships, or simply asking, “Why do I keep experiencing the same patterns with people?”

Because our understanding of love affects everything.

How we love ourselves affects how we allow others to treat us. How we understand love affects our boundaries. It affects forgiveness. It affects communication. It affects intimacy.

So yes, relationships are part of the conversation — but the book is ultimately about our relationship with life, with God, with ourselves and with other people.

5. What do you think is one of the biggest misunderstandings people have about love?

I think one of the biggest misunderstandings is that love is a feeling.

Feelings are part of love, of course. But feelings change.

Real love is also a choice, an attitude, a practice and a way of showing up.

Sometimes loving someone means being present. Sometimes it means forgiving. Sometimes it means setting a boundary. Sometimes it means telling someone the truth. Sometimes it means letting someone go.

Love isn’t always comfortable.

And sometimes the most loving thing we can do is not give somebody what they want, but give them what is healthy.

6. You place a lot of emphasis on loving yourself. Why is that so important?

Because many people have learned how to give love to everyone else while never learning how to give it to themselves.

They criticize themselves. They carry guilt. They replay old mistakes. They compare themselves with other people. They believe they aren’t enough.

And then they wonder why they keep looking outside themselves for validation.

Loving yourself doesn’t mean believing you’re perfect.

It means saying, “I am worthy of love even while I am growing.”

There are parts of us that don’t need to be fixed. They need to be understood, accepted and loved.

That is a very powerful shift.

7. What does loving your neighbour actually mean in everyday life?

It doesn’t necessarily mean doing something extraordinary.

It can be incredibly simple.

It can mean listening to someone without interrupting. It can mean showing kindness to a stranger. It can mean forgiving someone. It can mean helping someone who is struggling.

But it can also mean respecting somebody enough to tell them the truth.

And “neighbour” doesn’t simply mean the person who lives next door.

It represents the people we encounter every day.

The real test of love isn’t how we behave when everything is going our way. It’s how we show up when we are disappointed, hurt, angry or challenged.

That’s where love becomes real.

8. What would you say to someone listening who says, “I’ve been hurt by love, and I don’t want to love again”?

I would say: I understand.

Being hurt doesn’t mean that love failed. Sometimes it means that what we called love wasn’t actually healthy love.

And healing doesn’t require you to immediately trust another person again.

Sometimes the first person you need to learn to trust again is yourself.

Give yourself permission to heal.

Learn what happened. Understand your patterns. Forgive where forgiveness is possible. Establish healthy boundaries. And slowly rediscover who you are.

You don’t have to rush back into love.

But don’t allow somebody else’s inability to love you properly to convince you that you are unlovable.

You are not.

9. What do you hope somebody will take away after reading The Book of Love?

I hope they walk away with a completely different understanding of what love means.

I hope they realize that love isn’t something they have to chase.

I hope they understand that they are worthy of love.

I hope they become more compassionate toward themselves.

And I hope they start looking at their relationships differently.

Ultimately, I want the reader to ask three questions:

How am I receiving love from God?

How am I loving myself?

And how am I expressing that love toward the people around me?

If those three questions begin changing the way someone lives, then the book has done its job.

10. If you could give listeners one message from The Book of Love, what would it be?

I would say this:

Don’t spend your whole life searching for love outside yourself while ignoring the love that is already available to you.

Begin with God.

Learn to receive love.

Then learn to look at yourself through the eyes of love.

And from that place, go and love other people.

Because perhaps the greatest transformation we can make in our lives isn’t finding someone who loves us perfectly.

Perhaps it is becoming a person who understands how to love.

And that is ultimately what The Book of Love is about.

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