Radio Interview: The Thief of Joy

10 Questions and Answers with Gerald Crawford

1. Gerald, tell us about your new book, The Thief of Joy. What is it about?

The Thief of Joy is a book about comparison. We live in a world where we constantly compare ourselves with other people—their success, relationships, careers, possessions, appearance and lifestyles. The problem is that comparison can quietly steal our happiness. This book encourages readers to stop measuring their lives against somebody else’s and start appreciating the life they have.

2. Why did you choose the title The Thief of Joy?

Because comparison can literally rob us of the joy that is already present in our lives. You can have a good life, but the moment you compare it with someone else’s life, you may suddenly feel that you don’t have enough. Comparison shifts our attention from gratitude to lack. That is why I call it the thief of joy.

3. Why do you think people compare themselves so much?

Comparison is part of human nature. We naturally look around us to understand where we fit in. But social media has taken comparison to another level. Every day we see carefully selected images of other people’s successes, holidays, homes, bodies and relationships. We are often comparing our ordinary everyday life with somebody else’s highlight reel.

4. Is comparison always a bad thing?

No. Comparison can sometimes motivate us. Seeing somebody achieve something can inspire us to improve ourselves. The problem begins when comparison becomes a measurement of our worth. There is a big difference between saying, “That person inspires me,” and saying, “That person is better than me, therefore I am not good enough.”

5. What does comparison do to our happiness?

It changes our focus. Instead of asking, “What is good in my life?” we start asking, “Why don’t I have what they have?” We stop appreciating our blessings because we are looking at someone else’s. The more we compare, the more difficult it becomes to experience contentment.

6. How does social media contribute to this problem?

Social media gives us an almost unlimited supply of opportunities to compare ourselves. We see someone’s new car, beautiful home, holiday, business success or apparently perfect relationship. What we don’t see are their struggles, disappointments, fears and difficult days. We are comparing the whole story of our lives with a carefully edited version of theirs.

7. What would you say to someone who constantly feels that they are falling behind in life?

I would tell them that there is no universal timetable for life. Your journey is your journey. Someone else’s success does not mean you are failing. We all have different circumstances, opportunities, challenges and seasons. Instead of asking, “Why am I not where they are?” ask, “What can I do with where I am today?”

8. How can someone begin to break the habit of comparison?

Start by becoming aware of it. Notice when you compare yourself with someone else and ask whether that comparison is helping you or hurting you. Then deliberately shift your attention towards gratitude. Appreciate what you have, the people in your life, the progress you have made and the things that money cannot buy. You don’t need to become somebody else to have a meaningful life.

9. What is the most important message you hope readers take from the book?

I want readers to understand that their value is not determined by how they compare with somebody else. You don’t have to be richer, more successful, younger, better-looking or more accomplished than another person to have a valuable life. Your life has its own story. Stop competing with someone else’s chapter and start living your own.

10. If you could leave radio listeners with one thought from The Thief of Joy, what would it be?

I would say: Don’t allow somebody else’s life to make you unhappy with your own. Comparison asks, “Why don’t I have what they have?” Gratitude asks, “What do I have that I can be thankful for?” When we stop comparing and start appreciating, we begin to discover that perhaps we already have far more joy than we realised.

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