REGRESSION HYPNOTHERAPY SCRIPT
Abandonment, Rejection & Fear of Being Left
1. INTRODUCTION
This session is designed to explore the emotional experience of abandonment and the ways in which earlier experiences may continue to influence thoughts, feelings, relationships and responses in the present.
You do not need to force yourself to remember anything.
There is no requirement for a particular memory to appear.
Your mind can choose what is appropriate for you to explore today, and you remain in control throughout the entire experience.
If something feels too intense, you can step back, observe it from a distance, or return your attention to the present moment.
Today is not about reliving pain.
It is about understanding, processing and creating a different relationship with what you have experienced.
2. SAFETY DISCLAIMER
Before we begin, remember that hypnosis is a state of focused attention and relaxation.
You remain aware of your surroundings and retain your ability to make choices.
You can speak, move, open your eyes or end the exercise at any time.
We are not going to assume that a particular event happened.
We are simply allowing your mind to explore memories, emotions and experiences that may be relevant to the feelings you are experiencing today.
A memory that emerges during hypnosis should not automatically be interpreted as a literal or historically accurate record.
What matters therapeutically is the experience, emotion and meaning associated with it.
3. PREPARATION
Make yourself comfortable.
Allow your body to be supported.
There is nothing you need to accomplish.
Take a slow breath in…
and gently breathe out.
Again…
breathing in…
and breathing out.
And with every breath, allow yourself to become increasingly aware of the support beneath you.
Notice the muscles around your face beginning to soften.
Your jaw becoming comfortable.
Your shoulders releasing.
Your hands becoming still.
Your abdomen relaxing.
Your legs becoming heavier.
And simply allow yourself to be here.
4. PRE-INDUCTION
In a moment, I will invite you to imagine a place where you feel completely safe.
It may be a real place.
It may be imaginary.
It may be somewhere you have never physically visited.
There is no right place.
Allow your mind to create whatever environment feels appropriate.
Notice what you can see…
what you can hear…
and what you can feel.
And recognise that this place can become your point of return.
Whenever you need distance, reassurance or safety, you can return here.
5. HYPNOTIC INDUCTION
Now take another slow breath.
And as you breathe out, allow your eyes to become heavier.
You don’t have to make them close.
Simply allow them to close whenever they are ready.
Imagine a gentle wave of relaxation beginning at the top of your head…
moving slowly through your face…
your neck…
your shoulders…
down through your arms…
your chest…
your abdomen…
your hips…
your legs…
and all the way down to your feet.
With each breath, you can become more comfortable.
More settled.
More inwardly focused.
And you don’t have to make anything happen.
You simply allow your unconscious mind to participate in its own way.
6. DEEPENING
Imagine yourself standing at the beginning of a gentle pathway.
This pathway represents your own history.
You don’t need to know where it leads.
You don’t need to see every detail.
You simply know that you can move through your history safely and selectively.
And there is an important understanding here:
You are the adult observing the experience now.
You are not the helpless child you may once have been.
You have knowledge now.
You have resources now.
You have choices now.
And as you move gently along this pathway, your unconscious mind can bring your attention toward an experience, feeling or pattern that is relevant to the abandonment you experience today.
You do not have to search.
Simply allow.
7. THERAPEUTIC REGRESSION
And perhaps you notice a feeling…
a sensation…
an image…
a thought…
or simply a sense that something is there.
Don’t force it.
Allow it to become clearer in whatever way is natural.
And when something comes to your awareness, simply observe it.
Where are you?
What are you experiencing?
What emotion is present?
What does your body feel?
And most importantly…
what did you need at that moment?
Perhaps you needed someone to stay.
Perhaps you needed reassurance.
Perhaps you needed protection.
Perhaps you needed to know that you mattered.
Perhaps you needed to hear:
“You are safe.”
“You are important.”
“You are not alone.”
“This is not your fault.”
Or perhaps something entirely different.
Allow your mind to identify what that younger part of you needed.
And now imagine that your present-day self can approach that younger version of you.
Not to change what happened.
Not to deny what happened.
But simply to be present.
You can sit beside them.
You don’t have to say anything.
You can simply let them know:
“I am here now.”
“I see you.”
“I hear you.”
“You don’t have to carry this alone anymore.”
Allow whatever emotion needs to be experienced to be experienced at a tolerable level.
And if it becomes too intense, imagine yourself stepping back onto your safe pathway and observing from a comfortable distance.
You are in control.
8. POSITIVE REINFORCEMENT
Now allow the younger part of you to receive something that may have been missing.
Safety.
Understanding.
Compassion.
Presence.
And perhaps you can imagine giving that younger self permission to release the belief:
“People always leave me.”
And replacing it with something more balanced:
“Some people leave.”
“Some people stay.”
“Other people’s choices do not determine my worth.”
“I can survive change.”
“I can experience connection without losing myself.”
“I can choose relationships that feel safe, respectful and reciprocal.”
Allow those ideas to settle gently into your mind.
9. FUTURE PACING
Now imagine yourself in the future.
Perhaps you are in a relationship.
Perhaps someone becomes distant.
Perhaps someone does not respond.
Perhaps someone leaves.
Notice what happens inside you.
And this time, instead of immediately experiencing the old fear…
pause.
Breathe.
Notice your feet on the ground.
Notice yourself in the present.
And remind yourself:
“This is now.”
“I am here.”
“I am safe in this moment.”
“Someone else’s behaviour does not define my value.”
You can respond rather than react.
You can communicate rather than panic.
You can choose rather than cling.
You can allow people to leave without abandoning yourself.
10. THERAPEUTIC SUGGESTIONS & AFFIRMATIONS
And from today forward, your unconscious mind can begin learning new possibilities.
I can be connected without being dependent.
I can love without losing myself.
I can care without controlling.
I can experience separation without experiencing abandonment.
I can recognise the difference between what happened then and what is happening now.
I can allow relationships to change.
I can allow people to make their own choices.
And most importantly:
I will not abandon myself in order to prevent someone else from leaving.
I can listen to my needs.
I can express my needs.
I can establish healthy boundaries.
I can choose relationships that support mutual respect.
And I can become increasingly comfortable with the knowledge that my worth does not depend upon somebody else’s decision to stay.
11. REORIENTATION
And now, begin to become aware of the room around you.
Notice the surface supporting your body.
Notice your breathing.
Notice the temperature of the air.
Begin bringing your attention back into the present.
You can imagine gathering everything useful from this experience…
and leaving behind anything that no longer needs to be carried.
Take a deeper breath.
Feel your body becoming more alert.
Your hands.
Your feet.
Your shoulders.
And when you are ready, you can gently move your fingers and toes.
12. CLOSING
In a moment, you will return fully to ordinary awareness.
You do not need to remember every detail.
Your unconscious mind can continue processing whatever was useful from this experience in its own time.
And you can carry forward the central understanding:
You cannot control who stays.
But you can choose not to abandon yourself.
Take one final slow breath.
And when you are ready…
open your eyes.
Welcome back.
13. POST-SESSION GUIDANCE
Take some time before immediately returning to demanding activities.
Drink some water.
Allow yourself a few quiet moments to reflect.
You may wish to record:
- What emotions emerged?
- What did the younger part of me seem to need?
- What belief about myself or relationships did I discover?
- What do I understand differently now?
- What can I do differently in my present relationships?
- How can I remain connected to myself when I fear someone else may leave?
Remember that emotional processing can continue after a session. If significant distress persists, the experience should be explored further with an appropriately qualified mental-health professional.
